Tuesday, December 28, 2004

Life is difficult

Dr. Scott Peck writes in his acclaimed book "The Road Less Travelled" : "Life is difficult."

The moment we hear the realistic words of Scott Peck, an inner voice in us says, "He's right.Life is dfficult and there's no way we can escape from it."

For many, it may simply be a statement of conclusion but for many others, it is a premise for the beginning of a journey.

So do we just want to moan about life's problems or start solving them?

"Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult - once we truly understand and accept it - then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters."

The fact that life is difficult simply means that most of us need help in knowing how to apply certain principles, precepts and concepts to our lives in order to really start living a life.

We learn by experiences.We learn best and fastest this way.

Confucius says:
"I hear and I forget;
I see and I remember;
I do and I understand."

Yet, there are no quick fixes for most of our problems. We simply have to journey along and solving life's problems takes time, effort and discipline.

By and large, problems exist because we exist and mostly because of the fact that we exist in relationship with each other. We react and respond to another person's actions. Reactions are always a part of the problem because they may not be appropriate to that person or what that person expects.

These are always subjective reactions as all of us are unique and we react differently to differen matters or actions or words uttered.There are no formulas for human reactions.Yet, it is almost always in and through these reactions that we experience the sadness, the pain, and the tension. These collectively become subjectively defined as a problem or problems to us.

If this is right that our reactions are part of the problem then if we can understand and integrate them, then they can become part of the solution.

Perhaps we begin again our journey on the road of life by asking these questions:

"What types of problems are the most difficult for you to deal with?"

"How willing are you to confront these problems in order to change and grow?"

"Are there some problems that can simply go away over time if I just ignore them?"


At 7:18 PM, Anonymous Emotional and Mental Self Improvement said...

Hello -> prodigal <- I just wanted to let you know that this post was an interesting read and well presented. Just my two cents.

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