Tuesday, January 25, 2005

The reality of making decisions

Decisions, decisions, decisions.

It seems that everywhere we turn there is another decision to make:
What to eat, what to wear, what to do, how to do it, when to do it, whom to do it with, etc.

Every day, there are dozens of decisions to make, starting from the moment we wake up and ending when we finally fall asleep at night. If you are alive and conscious, then every day, day in and day out, week after week, month after month, year after year there are decisions to be made. In a single lifetime, a person will make zillions of choices.

Some decisions are made to pass judgment on an issue under consideration or on a person’s behavior or actions. Other decisions are made to reach a conclusion or to make up one’s mind about a choice. Decisions are made about who to believe, about what to believe, about what we feel is right or wrong, about what experiences we want to have, about options we want to explore and about ways we want to be.

In the midst of struggling with our decions, we actually find themselves, our own identity begin to take a more central stage and sometimes we geta little glimpse of the meaning and purpose of our own life.

On the other hand, there are many amongst us who shriek in fear or discomfort when confronted with making a decision, because we have not been taught how to take responsibility for our own lives.

We sigh in quiet relief when another person makes the decision for us because it takes away the pressures inherent in making a decision.

There are many reasons why people are afraid to make their own decisions:

Fear of making a mistake

Fear of the consequences

Thinking that others know what is better for them than they do

Thinking that others are better qualified to make decisions

Lacking confidence in their decision making ability

If someone else makes the decision and it doesn’t work out, then they can shift the blame to the person who made the decision instead of blaming themselves

Not having the courage to take responsibility for their choices

What about you?

Have you really make the decisions in your life or do you just allow youself to drift on from one decision to another because you do not make the decisions but instead allow things to happen or just decide things on the spur of the moment without much thought?


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