Sunday, September 18, 2005

What do you want?

Why is it that some people successfully achieve their goals while others don’t?

Why is it that sometimes we get what we want and other times we don’t?

Since Tony Robbins, motivational guru after motivational guru has told us the same story:

1. Consciously decide what you want.
2. Write down your goals.
3. Take (massive) action in the direction of your goals.
4. Notice whether or not it’s working and change yourapproach accordingly.

But there’s something missing from that picture!

Here’s the problem:

Nearly everybody in the field of self-help assumes the conscious mind is in control of everything that happens in our lives.

Not so.

The conscious mind is only the tip of the iceberg.

It believes it’s always right.

It likes to think it’s in control, but it isn’t.

It’s like visiting your friend who, let’s say, happens to be a great financial advisor. He might give the very best financial advice.

But would you make the same person responsible for planning your relationships,your kids’ education, and your career?

Of course not!

But that’s exactly what we do when assume that our conscious mind is in charge of every part of our lives.

This helps to explain the mystery that’s haunted self-help since the beginning.

Why is it that ‘goal setting’ often does not work?

Have you ever had the experience of setting a goal, or thinking you wanted something and no matter how hard you tried, you never actualized it?

I know I have.

But maybe it wasn’t the setback it appeared to be.

I know if I’d ‘achieved’ half the goals I set, I’dprobably be in a total mess right now!

And that leads me to the secret no one else talks about .....

There’s often a big difference between what we think we want and what would deeply fulfill us.

If your goal is not right for you at the deepest levels, then something inside you will not allow it to happen.

Maybe you’ll find yourself losing interest in your goal.

Maybe you’ll start suffering from ‘procrastination.’

Maybe it will feel like you’re banging your head against a brick wall.

So do you really know what you want?